How can I get my hubby to stop going against me when disciplining our child?

this is something you will really need to talk to your husband about in private, explain to him, He's not the one who has to deal with a tired little girl all day. And although I know it feels good to give your children everything they want , its not helping her, she needs to know that Mommy and Daddy are a Team and they will win when it comes to discipline. So He will have to back you up when it comes to bed times.